Encourage Positive Behavior

Encourage Positive Behavior
Children crave attention, positive or negative. Sometimes a child may be misbehaving just to get
attention. Here are some ways to encourage positive behavior:

  • Give more attention for positive behaviors than for negative behaviors (at home & at school)
  • Provide choices between two acceptable options
  • Provide reassuring routines and tell the child in advance if the routine will change
  • Involve the child in setting limits
  • Model the desired behavior

Listen and Give Your Child Your Full Attention

Help your child to identify her feelings
Keep it simple

Praise
Children will respond better to praise than to criticism. Praise teaches children to seek positive attention.
Praise the positive behavior
Use specific praise for genuine accomplishments
Praise small steps towards the desired behavior
Give praise immediately and frequently
Mix praise with unconditional love
Teachers can send a note home to tell parents about positive behaviors

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How to Discipline a Child: Part II

How to Discipline a Child: Part II

Natural and Logical Consequences

The use of natural consequences involves letting the results of behavior provide a learning experience.

When responding to inappropriate behavior a logical consequence is one that fits the behavior.

Example of Natural Consequence:

The child forgets his homework. Instead of bringing it to school, the parent allows him to experience the consequences of missing recess and/or having to do it over.

 
Example of Logical Consequence:

 

After telling your child NOT to ride her bike in the street, she does so anyway. The parent takes her bike away for a specific time period.

  • Allows children to take responsibility for their actions
  • Use consequences in combination with positive techniques
  • Follow through with consequence promptly
  • Be consistent; empty threats do not work

NOTE: These approaches cannot be used in situations where the safety of the child or another person is a concern.

Provide a Functional Communication System ~ Behavior is Communication

Without a functional way to communicate needs, wants and feelings, a child will become frustrated.

Negative behaviors can be the child’s attempt to make others aware of his needs, wants and feelings.

  • If a young child cannot express that he is hungry or thirsty, simple sign language may enable him to convey these basic needs
  • An older student who has no way to participate in class discussions is likely to act out to gain the attention of his teacher and classmates
  • Assistive technology may be needed by some children

Teach Replacement Behaviors ~ Provides the child with more appropriate responses

Gives the child a better, more acceptable way to behave; replaces undesirable behaviors with more acceptable ones.

  • Teaches the child other options
  • Acknowledges that the traditional telling the child to just “stop the behavior” will not be effective because the child does not know an alternative way to behave
  • This strategy can include providing the child with scripts for common situations
  • Can also include teaching the child to use visual imagery, such as a stop sign
  • If a child curses when angry, provide more appropriate words to use

Are you struggling with disciplining your child?

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How to Discipline A Child

Discipline:

As parents one of our most difficult tasks is how to discipline our child. The goal is to find the strategy that will work for both you and your child. Remember, what works with one child may not be a good approach for another.

The word discipline means “to teach.”

Teaching children appropriate behaviors can be very challenging  for  parents. Teachers also struggle with inappropriate behaviors that interfere with learning. It is helpful when parents and teachers work together and share information about positive behavior interventions.

Here are some basic tips to get you started:

1. Be positive – Let your child know you love him and appreciate him. Notice appropriate behavior.
Praise and acknowledge his efforts!
2. Identify the specific behavior that needs to change.
3. Focus on only one behavior at a time.
4. Be consistent – decide on the rule, the expected behavior and the consequence or reward – then
stick to it!
5. Recognize the small steps toward progress or change.
6. Let your child know what to expect – Go over the rules and consequences with your child.

Whether the inappropriate behavior is happening at home or school it is important to figure out the
reasons for it. A Functional Behavioral Assessment or FBA,  is a formal evaluation used by schools to gather
information about problem behaviors.
An FBA uses the ABC approach. This approach can also be helpful to parents.
A Antecedent (what factors led up to the behavior)
B Behavior (what is the behavior of concern and how serious is the behavior)
C Consequence (what does the child achieve with the behavior: ex: attention, avoiding a too
difficult task, removal from the peer group)
The information gathered by using this A, B, C approach can then be used to determine the reasons for the
behavior. It can also provide a foundation for developing positive ways to change the problem behavior.

 

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or call (973)534-3402

 

What is Neuropsychology?

What is Neuropsychology?

You may be wondering what a Neuropsychologist does or why you or your child would benefit from a Neuropsychological examination. The purpose of a Neuropsychological evaluation is to objectively/scientifically determine the individual’s cognitive strengths and weaknesses, ascertain any psychological, educational or neurobehavioral diagnoses, and offer recommendations as to intervention, treatment, and/or educational programming, as may be warranted. Neuropsychological evaluations are utilized to diagnose learning disorders, developmental disabilties, memory or other cognitive problems as well as emotional or psychiatric disorders (i.e., depression, anxiety, Bipolar disorder, etc).

brain

Neuropsychology integrates neurology and psychology into one field. A Neuropsychologist is specially trained to evaluate brain-behavior relationships. He/she has completed broad coursework and training in the field of psychology in addition to specialty training in neuropsychology earning a Ph.D. After graduation, a two-year post-doctoral fellowship in Neuropsychology is completed to provide experience in working with neurological/neurosurgery patients in an academic medical atmosphere.

It is important to seek out a Board Certified Neuropsychologist because Board Certification demonstrates that the specialist has the knowledge, skill, and experience to offer the highest quality of care in the field. Some psychologists may provide testing but they may not be specially trained in interpretation of Neuropsychological measures or the specific effects of neurocognitive disorders. To assure the Neuropsychologist has the level of expertise to provide you and your family with the most professional care possible it is important to look for the letters “ABPP” or “ABCN” (ABPP-CN) after a Neuropsychologist’s name.

For more information or to find a Neuropsychologist go to www.npanj.com

 

Special Education Advocacy

 

Newly Classified-Need Help Understanding IEP

What’s a parent to do?

Has your child recently been classified as having special needs at school and you don’t know what to do next?

Stick with me and I will get you through!

Welcome to my page!

I am a Special Educator that provides services to parents, students, basically families of all those of us that just don’t live within the box of mainstream society.

So, add this page to your favorites and stay tuned for invaluable information, resources, events, and yes even advice of how to get through that IEP meeting, diagnostic testing, or Child Study team phone call.

You’re not alone!

We can get through this together.

I’m so glad you’re here and look forward to helping you through the challenges of advocating for a special family member

Call Special Needs NJ today 973-534-3402 to start services for you and your child.

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Stand up!

Stand Up!

This is a video made by a couple of young brothers to combat the bullying and attacks made against their family because their two young sisters are down syndrome. It’s a must see and share!

Loving Brothers Stand Up for Bullied Sisters With Down Syndrome:

One day a family woke up to a horrific sight outside their house…someone had
spray painted awful things about their 2 daughters with down syndrome. Meet the
Hollis Boys, age 6 and 7 that wouldn’t let hateful people treat their sisters or
anyone like that. Here is what they have to say. Watch, share, join
http://www.godtube.com/untilweflyaway/and http://www.facebook.com/everyonematters – to create a
world where EVERYONE is free to be EXACTLY who they are, without shame, apology
– or attack.

down syndrome

http://www.godtube.com/watch/?v=0902FFNU

Holiday Reminders

As we are in Holiday mode…. remember to keep a routine for your special needs member. With lots of social gatherings and strange surroundings it is important to assign a social mentor to help your special family member navigate through the festivities.

Use PECS prompts, social scripts, and a digital problem solver (DPS) when things get overwhelming.

Help everyone enjoy the Holidays without stress 🙂

Advocacy: Special Education

word jumble spedWhat is Advocacy?

A good education is the next best thing to a pushy mother.” – Charles Schulz, cartoonist

 

If you have a child with special needs, you may wind up battling the school district for the services your child needs. To prevail, you need information, skills, and tools. One of those tools may be an advocate.

ad-vo-cate – Verb, transitive. To speak, plead or argue in favor of. Synonym is support.

1. One that argues for a cause; a supporter or defender; an advocate of civil rights.
2. One that pleads in another’s behalf; an intercessor; advocates for abused children and spouses.
3. A lawyer. (The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, Third Edition)

An advocate performs several functions:

Supports, helps, assists, and aids
Speaks and pleads on behalf of others
Defends and argues for people or causes

Educational Advocates:

Why an advocate?

As educational advocates we evaluate children with disabilities and make recommendations about services, supports and special education programs. When we go to eligibility and IEP meetings, we are acting on your child’s behalf. As your child’s educational advocate we can negotiate for services by relying on our knowledge of the special education laws to implement tactics and strategies that will provide instruction that “fits” your child’s disability.

What Advocates Do:

Advocacy is not a mysterious process. Here is a quick overview of advocacy.

A. Gather Information

As your advocate we gather facts and information. As we gather information and organize documents, we learn about your child’s disability and educational history. We then use these facts and independent documentation to resolve disagreements and disputes with the school.

 B. Learn the Rules of the Game

As your child’s co-advocate it is your responsibility to educate yourselves about your school district. You will need to know how decisions are made and by whom.

Advocates know about legal rights. They know that a child with a disability is entitled to an “appropriate” education (FAPE), not the “best” education, nor an education that “maximizes the child’s potential.” They understand that “best” is a four-letter word that cannot be used by parents or advocates.

Advocates know the procedures that you as parents must follow to protect your rights and your child’s rights.

C. Plan and Prepare

We know that planning prevents problems. Advocates do not expect school personnel to tell them about rights and responsibilities. We have read and are familiar with the special education laws, regulations, and cases to get answers to your questions.

We have learned how to use test scores to monitor your child’s progress in special education.

We will help you prepare for meetings, create agendas, write objectives, and use meeting worksheets and follow-up letters to clarify problems to nail down agreements.

D. Keep Written Records

Because documents are often the keys to success, as advocates we must keep written records. We have learned that if a statement is not written down, it was not said. We make requests in writing and write polite follow-up letters to document events, discussions, and meetings.

E. Ask Questions, Listen to Answers

We are not afraid to ask questions. When we ask questions, we listen carefully to answers. As your advocate we know how to use “Who, What, Why, Where, When, How, and Explain Questions” (5 Ws + H + E) to discover the true reasons for positions taken by the school professionals, administrators, and parents.

F. Identify Problems

We can define and describe problems from all angles, by using our knowledge of interests, fears, and positions to develop strategies. We are problem solvers not “the hired gun.” We will not waste valuable time and energy looking for people to blame.

G. Propose Solutions

As a parent of a special needs child we know that you must negotiate with schools for special education services. As your co-advocate we will negotiate, discuss issues and make offers or proposals. We are all seeking “win-win” solutions that will satisfy the interests of you the parent, the child, and school professional.

Your Assignment:

Plan for the Future

What are the long-term goals you have for your child? What do you envision for your child in the future?

Most parents are focused on the present and haven’t given much thought towards the future. Do you expect your child to be an independent, self-sufficient member of the community? Although some children with disabilities will require assistance as adults, most will grow up to be adults who hold jobs, get married, and live independently.

In order to achieve the goals of what you want for your child in the future you need to have a vision. Through this vision your child is more likely to achieve these goals.

If you believe others will make long-term plans for your child and provide your child with the necessary skills to be an independent, self sufficient member of society, you are likely to be disappointed.

Answer These Questions:

What do I want for my child? What are the goals for my child’s future? Do we have a master plan for our child’s education?

If your goal is for your child to grow up to be an independent adult, what will he/she need to learn before your child leaves the public school system?

And finally… what do you see for your future as the parent of a special needs individual?

Develop a Master Plan ;

If you are a typical parent, you don’t have a master plan. You have no idea where you are, where you need to go, or how to get there, and when you get there what to do? It is your responsibility to make long-term plans for your child, do NOT expect school personnel to do this for you.

Begin by thinking about your vision for your child’s future. What are your long-term goals for your child? What will your child need to learn? What services and supports will your child need to meet these goals?

Are you ready to be a co-advocate? Run out and pick up this list of supplies that will help you get started:

You will need:

  • Two 3-ring      notebooks (one for your child’s file; one for information about your      child’s disability and educational information.
  • 3-hole punch
  • Highlighters
  • Package of      sticky notes
  • #10 Envelopes
  • Stamps
  • Calendar
  • Journal
  • Contact log
  • Small tape      recorder
  • Special Needs NJ phone number
  • A co-advocate

Call Special Needs NJ today 973-534-3402 to start advocacy services for you and your child.

Aspergers

banner blue puzzleUnderstanding Aspergers:

A   Anxiety seems to come out of nowhere sometimes for no reason. I’m afraid of doing the wrong thing. Sometimes I worry a lot and am scared that I might be a bad person.

S Strange thoughts run through my head at random. Sometimes I can make them stop but other times I can’t. I associate strange things (like the number 11 with white bread dipped in tomato sauce).

P People don’t understand me sometimes and I’m afraid regular ed. kids will never accept me. They don’t think the way I do and don’t understand me.

E Eye Contact bothers me. I don’t know why I have trouble looking at people when I talk to them, nor do I know why I don’t like being touched?

R Routine is important and helps me focus. I hate major change and fear the unknown. I worry a lot about the future and find it hard to organize my life when my routine changes.

G Games, especially video and computer games that let you escape from reality are favorites of “Aspies.” I have an excellent memory when it comes to navigating tunnels in an RPG

E Escapism is vital. I don’t always understand the world around myself or the way others think. I protect myself by escaping into my own world.

R Rejection is hard to deal with, especially if it’s by peers of your own age group.

S Safety, Security, and Satisfaction are things all “Aspies” crave but seldom find unless they try. We don’t succeed in “normal” ways but many of us have special talents and are truly brilliant, something most of us are!

Do some of these describe your child? Aspergers is not a disability but a state of uniqueness! Children on the Autism spectrum live their lives outside the “norms” of society, or so we are taught to believe. However, I see these students as individuals, each with their own set of rules by which to play. With the right instruction, coping mechanisms, and life skills tools they can learn to tolerate those things that separate them from the mainstream.

Contact us today to get started on helping your unique child manage the world he/she lives in.

call 973-534-3402 for free 1/2 hour phone consult

or email specialneedsnj@hotmail.com to schedule a session

Special Needs NJ

Who are we and what do we do?

We provide:

  1. Tutoring for both Special Needs and academically struggling students
  2. Applied Behavioral Therapy (ABA) Therapy for Autism and other disabilities in your home.
  3. Advocacy to parents understanding your child’s Individual Education Plan (IEP), which includes:  A. Interpretation, B.Preparation C. Monitoring and observation, D. Meeting attendance, E. Letter Writing, etc…
  4. Provide in home care for your disabled family member
  5. In home care for elderly, companionship, meal prep, med management etc…
  6. Errands and transportation to Dr’s., store, pharmacy

Has your child been newly classified?

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What’s a parent to do?

Has your child recently been classified as having special needs at school and you don’t know what to do next?

Stick with us and we will get you through!

Welcome to the Special Needs NJ page!

I we are  Special Educators that provide services to parents, students, basically families of all those of us that just don’t live within the box of mainstream society.

So, add this page to your favorites and stay tuned for invaluable information, resources, events, and yes even advice of how to get through that IEP meeting, diagnostic testing, or Child Study team phone call.

You’re not alone!

We can get through this together.

We are so glad you’re here and look forward to helping you through the challenges of advocating for a special family member

Call Special Needs NJ today 973-534-3402 to start services for you and your child.

Need Academic Tutoring for your child?

Do you have an aging parent and need assistance, home care, or just a night out?

Call Special Needs NJ today 973-534-3402  we can get you and your family the help you need.